As a '90s boy, I'll be honest—good male role models were few and far between while growing up. Most of our on-screen heroes offered plenty of gratuitous action and touted stalking as their number one dating strategy. Fortunately, looking back as an adult, there's now plenty of interesting, complex, nuanced and wholesome takes on men that not only dive into uncomfortable places—but offer a lens for men both young and old to question their insecurities, connect with their passions, and grow into healthier, happier individuals.

This International Men's Day, we take a look at a few examples of 'real men' from films, comics, series and video games that I've connected with over the years:

Siddharth Sinha from Dil Chahta Hai

Farhan Akhtar’s directorial debut might just be my most-rewatched Bollywood gem from the 2000s—and it’s easy to see why. With three protagonists navigating male friendship and the trials of coming-of-age, it offers a heartfelt exploration of love and personal growth. But it’s Akshaye Khanna’s portrayal of the sensitive, artistically inclined, and quietly brooding 'softboy' that truly stands out. His journey gives us a poignant lens on love, loss, and how far someone will go to nurture a fragile romance—even when it hurts.

Phil Dunphy from Modern Family

Phil Dunphy is the ultimate 'fun dad' and yet, there’s more to him than goofy antics and dad jokes. Beneath his light-hearted demeanour is a father who values his family above all and constantly works to connect with his kids and wife, even if it means embarrassing himself. He’s a reminder that being vulnerable, kind, and relentlessly supportive are some of the best things a man can be; even if he's sometimes insufferable and has a wandering eye.

Jack Pearson from This Is Us

Jack Pearson is the kind of dad we all aspire to have—or be. His unwavering love for his family and his determination to give them the life he never had make him the emotional anchor of the show. Even when life gets messy, Jack’s presence is a beacon of hope, proving that true strength lies in selflessness and emotional connection.

Uncle Iroh from Avatar: The Last Airbender 

Uncle Iroh is the wise mentor everyone wishes they had. Whether he’s brewing tea, sharing stories, or guiding Zuko towards redemption, Iroh embodies balance, kindness, and patience. He’s proof that true strength isn’t about power or domination—it’s about compassion, humility, and the courage to admit your mistakes. Iroh’s lessons resonate far beyond the show, reminding us to find peace within ourselves and never underestimate the healing power of a good cup of tea.

Ted Lasso from Ted Lasso

  
Ted Lasso is the epitome of positivity, and in a world that can be overwhelmingly cynical, he’s the refreshing dose of hope we need. His leadership style is rooted in kindness and empathy, showing that you don’t need to be ruthless to inspire others. Ted’s charm lies in his ability to face adversity with humour and heart, proving that optimism isn’t naivety—it’s strength. He teaches us that believing in people, even when they don’t believe in themselves, can change everything.

Mohan Bhargava from Swades

In Swades, Shah Rukh Khan delivers one of his most understated yet powerful performances as Mohan Bhargava, an NRI scientist who returns to his roots to make a difference. His journey from a man focused on personal ambition to someone dedicated to his country’s development is deeply inspiring. Mohan’s quiet resilience and empathy remind us of the power of community and the importance of using our privilege to uplift others.

Kabir Khan in Chak De! India

Of course Shah Rukh Khan deserves more than one place on this list! As Kabir Khan, the actor brings grit, determination, and passion to life in Chak De! India. His transformation from a disgraced hockey player to a coach inspiring a team of underdogs is nothing short of electrifying. Kabir’s leadership is a masterclass in discipline and respect, showing that greatness isn’t achieved alone—it’s built on teamwork, trust, and perseverance.

Arthur Morgan from Red Dead Redemption 2

Arthur Morgan’s story is a masterclass in redemption (pun intended). A hardened outlaw at first, Arthur’s journey reveals a man grappling with morality, loyalty, and his own mortality. His willingness to evolve—to choose what’s right over what’s easy—makes him one of gaming’s most compelling characters; atleast if you choose to play him straight. Arthur’s quiet acts of kindness, even amidst chaos, remind us that it’s never too late to become the best version of ourselves.

Geralt of Rivia from the Witcher Series

Geralt of Rivia is the kind of hero who doesn’t seek glory—he just does what needs to be done. Beneath his gruff exterior lies a man of deep loyalty and moral conviction, someone who values fairness and protects the vulnerable; even if the general public fear and ostracise him. Whether he's slaying monsters or mentoring his foster daughter Ciri, Geralt shows that true strength is about standing up for what’s right, even when it’s inconvenient. Plus, his deadpan wit and love for horses give him just the right touch of humanity.

Goro Majima from the Yakuza Series

Goro Majima is chaotic, unpredictable, and entirely unforgettable. Known as the "Mad Dog of Shimano," Majima’s larger-than-life personality masks a man deeply loyal to those he cares about. His backstory reveals a quiet resilience against horrific trauma and an unexpected tenderness, making him more than just a wild card in the Yakuza series. Whether he’s cracking skulls or dancing in neon-lit karaoke bars, Majima reminds us that even the toughest exteriors can hide a heart of gold.

Miles Morales from Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse

 
Miles Morales is a modern-day hero for a new generation. Navigating the responsibilities of being Spider-Man while honouring his family and roots, Miles brings a refreshing sincerity to the superhero genre. His journey is about finding his voice and proving that anyone can be a hero if they step up when it matters. Miles’ mix of youthful optimism, resilience, and creativity makes him someone we can all root for.

Charles Xavier from the X-Men Series

Professor Charles Xavier is the epitome of visionary leadership. As the founder of the X-Men, he champions peace, equality, and understanding in a world that fears and rejects mutants. His unwavering belief in education, empathy, and teamwork shows that progress doesn’t come through conflict but through mutual respect and dialogue. Xavier’s intellectual and emotional intelligence make him a timeless role model; a fact heightened by the epic live-action performances delivered by Sir Patrick Stewart and James McAvoy.

Waymond Wang from Everything Everywhere All At Once

  
Waymond Wang is a beautiful reminder that kindness is a superpower. In a multiverse filled with chaos, his quiet, unwavering love for Evelyn grounds the story. Waymond’s belief in compassion as a way to heal and connect shines in every scene, proving that you don’t need to fight with fists to make a difference. He’s a role model for embracing gentleness in a world that often rewards aggression.

Stan Rizzo from Mad Men

Stan Rizzo is Mad Men’s quiet standout, a laid-back yet deeply supportive presence in a world of chaotic egos. Initially cocky and flirtatious, Stan grows into one of the series’ most emotionally intelligent characters, particularly through his dynamic with Peggy Olson; who he shares a happy ending with at the end of the series. He’s the rare man who truly sees her brilliance and supports her without insecurity, evolving from a teasing colleague to a steadfast partner. With his wit, adaptability, and unwavering loyalty, Stan proves that masculinity can be confident, kind, and grounded—even in the cutthroat world of advertising.